Each person must do what "feels" right to them.
My son DAed himself as I did. We publicly when into their world (baptized)...we wanted to make a public display going out...not just for us but for all those still "in the borg." We felt that by doing so, we were saying "We are no longer playing by their rules."
This was done before they could find something to DF us for....giving them some kind of justifacation to hate us in their world...since they were anyway.
My Daughter decided to just fade...
No matter which way you go "Welcome to the Twilight Zone"
Keith